But, none of that makes sense, does it? Unfortunately, your subconscious mind doesn't deal in sense. It only wants to stick to the script that it believes is best for you. It's only in your conscious mind that reason, logic and analytical ability reside. That's where you decide to make the positive change. Your subconscious mind is where the improvement is sabotaged.
So, what can you do? Hypnotherapy and Emotional Freedom Technique are both excellent ways of dealing with your subconscious, resistant mind so that you can experience the changes you consciously know you want to experience.
Why is it sometimes so difficult for us to make changes in our lives, even positive ones that we feel certain we want to make? Things like losing weight, quitting bad habits, or leaving a job or relationship that simply isn't working would appear to be improvements that we certainly desire, but, often, even when we decide to make the shift, somehow something sabotages us.
Often there is what's known as a secondary benefit at play, a belief deeply buried in our subconscious mind that the thing we know consciously isn't good for us actually serves some beneficial purpose.
As part of my
Stress Relief Techniques class, I teach the importance of gratitude. It's enormously healing, simply because we're naturally such anxious creatures. We're all experts at being stressed and
anxious because our earliest ancestors, who were much more vulnerable than we,
had to be on the lookout incessantly for things that could be detrimental to
their continued well-being. That
tendency has been passed down to us through the generations, and we're now quite
good at it.
We've all heard
how important it is for our continued good health to eat properly, exercise,
drink plenty of water, and get the right amount of sleep.
But it's equally
important to become aware of how we speak to ourselves, both
silently and aloud.
I used to know a
woman who would announce at the first hint of cooler weather that flu season was
coming and that she got sick every year.
Interestingly enough, she usually did.
There was someone else I knew who, as he aged and found he was having
more difficulty recalling words and names, would make
a comment about how his memory was shot.
Perhaps there's an area of your life that you'd like
to improve. An illness, injury, bad situation,
or anything at all, really. You've tried
many different methods to make it better – physical, emotional and mental
efforts – but nothing, so far, has worked.
It's time for you to consider the Hoʻoponopono.
According to Dr. Meherunisa Sutarwala, Hoʻoponopono is
the process of rectifying a situation.
Its roots are in the Polynesian cultures, whose people believed one's errors
were the cause of illness.
Have you ever
noticed that when you’re feeling the most stressed, often you want to eat
more? Worse, you crave things that you
know aren’t healthy for you, like candy bars, cookies, soda or coffee. You know that, if you indulge, not only won’t
you feel better, but it will likely make you feel worse. Still, though, you have a strong desire to do
The reason this
happens is, stress is a result of your subconscious mind thinking that whatever
has triggered the stress is something much worse.
We’ve all heard
the old adage, “Laughter is the best medicine.”
But have you ever stopped to consider why that might be?
healthier when you’re happier because your body is releasing neurotransmitters
and hormones like endorphins, serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin.
physical pain. Serotonin stimulates
feelings of happiness and makes you more social. Dopamine causes you to feel better about yourself,
especially when you’re working toward achieving a goal.
In a recentblog post
I addressed the fact that, as insane as it sounds, stress is actually attractive
to us on a subconscious level. Now that
you’re aware of that fact, it’s also important to become aware, on a conscious
level, of the fact that we are encouraged to be stressed.
We've all heard the expression, "No pain, no
gain." Have you ever
stopped and thought about what that means?
In order to acquire anything you want, you will have to hurt for
Many people think that hypnosis is like what you see
in movies and TV shows and on stage. It
appears as if someone can magically take control of your mind in order to make
you do things against your will.
In reality, hypnosis is a natural, normal state of
mind, one that you've experienced whether you're aware of it or not. Being in hypnosis means that you're in your alpha
brainwave state. Wide awake, you're in
your beta brainwave state. Sound asleep,
you're in the delta state.
We have all experienced stress. We know we don't like the way it feels. We know we wish whatever triggered it would
go away or hadn't happened in the first place.
Stress is just plain yucky, right?
Well, here's something that might surprise you: you are actually attracted to stress. It sounds insane, doesn't it? But it's true.
When humans first showed up on the planet, we had
nothing: no immunity, no weapons, no natural armor.