In a recentblog post
I addressed the fact that, as insane as it sounds, stress is actually attractive
to us on a subconscious level. Now that
you’re aware of that fact, it’s also important to become aware, on a conscious
level, of the fact that we are encouraged to be stressed.
We've all heard the expression, "No pain, no
gain." Have you ever
stopped and thought about what that means?
In order to acquire anything you want, you will have to hurt for
Many people think that hypnosis is like what you see
in movies and TV shows and on stage. It
appears as if someone can magically take control of your mind in order to make
you do things against your will.
In reality, hypnosis is a natural, normal state of
mind, one that you've experienced whether you're aware of it or not. Being in hypnosis means that you're in your alpha
brainwave state. Wide awake, you're in
your beta brainwave state. Sound asleep,
you're in the delta state.
We have all experienced stress. We know we don't like the way it feels. We know we wish whatever triggered it would
go away or hadn't happened in the first place.
Stress is just plain yucky, right?
Well, here's something that might surprise you: you are actually attracted to stress. It sounds insane, doesn't it? But it's true.
When humans first showed up on the planet, we had
nothing: no immunity, no weapons, no natural armor.
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Have you ever noticed
what the person you're speaking with is doing physically? Taking note of what another does and doing
the same thing yourself can greatly enhance your communicative ability. It's a technique known as Matching and
Mirroring, and it comes to us from Neuro Linguistic Programming. Making use of it can help you to be more
For example, perhaps
you've noticed that the person you're in conversation with is leaning back or forward. You can pretty easily adjust your body to be
the same without disrupting the flow of the talk.
of the ways that we can make communication go more smoothly is to become aware
of the dominant sensory perception of the person with whom we're conversing. It may sound like a lot of effort, but it's
actually pretty easy to do with a little practice. We need only listen to the way other people
phrase things in terms of senses, and use similar expressions to respond.
for example, the following sentence: “Look,
I see what you mean, but what I’m picturing is something a little different.
We all know how to communicate with each other, right?
We do it all the time. We talk to each other, phone, email, text, PM.
Back in the old days, we wrote each
other letters. All of these make use of
spoken or written language to get our points across. But not all communication is spoken or
written, and not everyone communicates the same way.
For example, we’re probably all aware of body language
and how to make use of that. If you’re
speaking to someone across a table, and they lean in, that probably means
they’re interested in what you’re saying.
Have you had difficulty sustaining a satisfying relationship? Would you say you're in a good relationship,
but you'd like to be able to enjoy it even more? Do you think it's possible to predict your
partner's behavior so you can improve the relationship by knowing how to
According to Marriage and Family Therapist Dr. John Kappas (also
the founder of the Hypnosis Motivation Institute), most people fall into one of
two categories: those who take in information literally and those who take it
Are you feeling stuck? Would you
like to improve your life, but you just can't seem to make any headway
accomplishing that? Do you want to feel
happier? Try using affirmations.
According to Dictionary.com, an affirmation is the assertion that
something exists or is true. Since we
aresuggestible to ourselves
, sometimes stating what you want as though it is already
true can make it more likely you'll experience the results you want. Try some of these (or create your own!
Guided Imagery is a
technique most hypnotherapists will use during the course of a session because
it's a remarkably effective means of helping you to accomplish your goals. While it's more likely to be effective if you
do it in the context of a hypnotherapy session, you can also use it on your own
if there's a change you'd like to bring into your life.
Choose a time when you
can be free of distractions, and turn off or silence all your devices. The length of time doesn't matter.